I know you may be thinking that there’s something wrong with you because you’re still single, or screwing up yet another relationship, even after all the work you’ve done to find your love.

Dating and relationships just don’t seem to come naturally for you.  They create a lot of angst, confusion and disappointment, and you’re tired, frustrated and disillusioned with finding the right relationship.

And i’m going to go another layer deeper, and have a guess that deep down inside, you feel pretty insecure and unloveable.

I’m Janine Beck, and I’ve had the privilege and joy of working with so many bright, capable, caring, smart and intelligent people – who, like yourself, have created so much in their lives, yet who came to me confused as to why love has been so challenging for them.

And it’s not for a lack of effort.  

So here’s the problem

• You’ve been through long droughts with no relationship, no sex, and not even any interesting prospects
• You’ve decided that there’s no quality men or women out there to date and that all the good ones are taken
• You’re tired of half hearted texting from dates and being left hanging
• The odd sexual escapade leaves you feeling temporarily sated, but emotionally unfulfilled and sometimes even lonelier

• You can seldom get enough closeness or intimacy when you are in relationship, and you push them away with your wanting

• You have no idea how to get your needs met

You’re out of strategies on how to make it work in and out of relationship.

You might even be secretly worrying that real, lasting love will never happen for you.

Yet, somehow you’re reading this because you still have hope.

Well, firstly, I am going to guess that you already have a pretty good idea what your unhelpful patterns are thanks to the work you’ve done.

You know that it’s something about you that’s getting in your own way, from the inside.  That you do have some control over creating love in your life, yet, you still haven’t figured out how.

Maybe you’ve read books, been to workshops, tried different kinds of dating platforms, various practitioners or coaches.  You probably did your homework and your personal practices.

Yet you’re still here, confused and wanting love.

So, now, I’m going to look a little deeper under the layers, and see if any of these feel true for you.

Is it possible that, deep down, you

• Often feel invisible or unattractive to potential mates
• Feel nervous and uncomfortable inside when an attractive potential mate even looks your way, let alone flirts with you
• Wonder why or how anyone would ever really be attracted to you
• Feel like a loser, unworthy, useless or unwanted
• That actually it’s easier to shut off the wanting and go it alone in self-protection mode, because needing and wanting love and closeness just ends up hurting too much.

Now, logically, I know you know that you are a pretty good catch, and that the above things aren’t true.

Yet, that’s not how it feels.  No matter how much you challenge your thinking and do the things to change the way you feel.  You still feel this way inside of you.

In a nutshell….

Anxious.  Insecure. Unloveable.  Undesirable. Alone.

If you’ve heard of attachment theory or attachment styles, then this puts you squarely in the ‘insecurely attached’ category, mostly, the ‘anxiously attached’ camp.

These are the experiences, the things, those places inside, your core core inner beliefs and core identity.

The problem is that the other work out there usually has no idea how to address the beliefs inside and the feelings they produce.  

So, instead, they give you strategies on how to cope.  What to do. How to logically think better.

I am going to guess that you might have heard things like:

“You need to love yourself more”.

But you know that all those positive affirmations just don’t work. Or;

“Let go, think differently about your past relationship baggage”, and

“Be the kind of person you would want to have a relationship with”.  

And it’s true.  In order to know that loving secure partner, be able to meet them, attract them in, receive them, and enjoy their attention, you have to be able to feel and know that inside of you first. 

I know it’s an old cliche, and yes, it’s true.

But the question is, HOW???!

If it was that easy you would have done that by now!

If you’re here, you’re probably teetering on the precipice of giving up.

Believe me, I know the struggle because I’ve been there too.

I struggled with relationship for two decades, and after a long and confusing journey, making so much effort to change, I found the clarity and transformation I longed for, it’s with great joy I can share it with you here.